I’ve been thinking about this post for a long time, so I decided to finally get it out. It’s no secret that I love to shop…..ahem, I have a shopping blog, LOL! And, as my wonderful husband tells people all the time, I’ve always been honest about how much I love to shop and how much I love all things J. Crew. One of the many things that I love about my husband is how he supports me wholeheartedly in every aspect of my life: professionally, personally, and so on. I can be honest with him about my struggles without him judging me. I’m super blessed; my husband sees me at my worst, and he still loves me unconditionally. Here’s a picture of the two of us:
Now, let’s talk about how everything I’ve said above relates to money and marriage. I believe wholeheartedly in being honest and transparent at all times. Most often, my husband takes me to the mall and drops me off at the door so that I don’t have walk long distances given my neuromuscular medical condition. He rarely comes into the mall with me because he’s one of those get what you’re looking for and leave kind of shoppers. That’s never been my story. I mention this because he sees everything I buy. And, he worked from home years ago, so he signed for the UPS packages his cousin delivered to our door. Now, I leave the packages behind the love seat in our living room so that he can see what I’ve purchased. Also, my husband snaps my blog pictures so he sees everything. Moreover, all of our money is together, so there are no secrets. This works best for us.
Lest I sound self righteous, let me tell you about my struggles: I’ve rarely kept to my monthly clothing budget. Indeed, I’ve exceeded it more times than I can count. And, I’m not happy about that. Moreover, a few years ago, I purchased a Kate Spade coat that my husband clearly told me was not in our budget at the time. I figured that I’d try it on and convince him that it fit into the budget. Nope. I can’t even begin to describe the disappointed look on his face when the coat arrived……twice. The first time it didn’t fit, and since there isn’t a Kate Spade where I live, I shipped it back to get a smaller size. The smaller size didn’t work either, and my husband thought the coat was flat out ugly. The second time he googled the nearest Kate Spade and we drove a few hours to return the coat. This story is funny now, but it certainly wasn’t funny in 2008!
I tell you all of this to say that I believe it’s important to be honest at all times.
How do you reconcile/handle money/marriage/shopping? Do tell!
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