I’ve been thinking about this post for a very long time. So, I decided to get it out. Moreover, yesterday, the wonderful Gigi and Hexicon wrote a great post about shopping and consumption, and many of the comments on the post reminded me of many of the things I’ve been thinking about. I’ll share my thoughts about what I deem proper blog etiquette here, but first a question: does blog etiquette exist, or does it really matter?
Now, my thoughts:
1. I think that tone is key when commenting on blog posts. As a professor, I teach my students that diversity of thought is both necessary and critical. I want each one of my students to value difference. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, whether we agree with that opinion or not. However, I think that it’s highly important to watch our tone and how we express our opinions. So, yesterday, I was a bit annoyed by one of the comments on Gigi’s/Hexicon’s great post. In the spirit of full disclosure (I’m always honest here because that’s who I am) I should tell you that it takes a LOT to make me angry/frustrated. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. However, someone commented that they’ve stopped visiting certain J. Crew blogs because basically we’re only halfway through the year and some J. Crew bloggers have already purchased their “77th pencil skirt of the year” and “45th statement necklace of the month.” The person went on to say that these bloggers are making a “caricature” of themselves and that they’re “honestly embarrassed for them.” As I stated in my response on the post, I don’t take issue with the opinions in this comment, though I vehemently disagree with them, what I take issue with is the judgmental tone and the clear personal attack. No one knows anyone else’s financial situation. The bloggers referred to in the aforementioned comments could be millionaires. Their families could have left them a major inheritance. Whatever. We just don’t know, so I think it’s best to avoid the cataloging and lists delineating what “So and So” blogger purchases and when they purchase it. And, to suggest that someone has a “sickness” just because they shop a lot is over the top in my opinion.
Here is my final thought about tone: a couple of weeks ago I asked for feedback on the J. Crew Lucille Dress. Tabitha left what I think is one of the funniest comments I’ve ever read. She writes, “Rynetta, it does nothing for you, I’m always envious of how you look in pencil skirts, your figure can sing but not in this frock horror!” Tabitha offers critical feedback here without berating me or anyone else who has purchased this dress. Tone is critical, I think.
2. The wonderful Biscuits and Navy asked the following question in my last post: “As a new blogger, I’m constantly wondering if I’m doing the “right” thing. For instance, do I need to follow back EVERYONE that follows me?” Great question!! I’d love to hear what everyone else thinks about this, but here is my take. I try to follow everyone who follows me because I see this as a community and I value reciprocity. And, I continue to follow bloggers who don’t follow me back.
Okay, those are my thoughts so far……what blog etiquette “rules” would you add? Do tell!
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